Question
WHAT IS HAPPENING TO MARRIAGES? DIVORCE IS IN AN ALARMIC TREND IN CHRISTIAN FAMILIES TODAY. ARE CONFLICTS/PROBLEMS THE REASON FOR MISUNDERSTANDINGS IN MARRIAGES?
“Conflict exists whenever there are important differences between people. Should these differences be permitted to be an issue, they persist and if they remain unsolved, they serve to keep the couple apart in some way”.
We need to understand ourselves in order to establish these important differences in us who are married. We are not the same; we are totally different, with different ideals, visions, motives, desires, likes, degrees of independence, tasks and responsibilities etc.
Working in the same household budget and trying to meet the same goals, will these two partners agree on everything or should they agree to disagree?
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By Pastor Dick
Deliverance Church Aldina -Mombasa -Kenya
May the Lord God bless you for this good work to reach out to the world and bring it to christ. Its very encouranging to read the post people are posting on this blog.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is supposed to be a bonding process. When you agree to bond, conflicts will be handled with love and not selfish desires, with understanding and not strife. Just as a company calls a meeting when there is a crisis, couples should learn to do the same and listening to one another IN LOVE.
ReplyDeletePastor Martin
The most dominating reasons for divorse in christian families are:
ReplyDeleteSex: if you want your marriage to succeed, fullfil your conjugal responsiblity. Don't starve your partner and expose him/her to temptations.
Money: Sit down and plan together and always consult your partner on things concerning money, don't assume. Don't keep secrets because in the long run it does work against yoour union.
Lack of communication skills: communication is the only way you can resolve problems and conflicts. Lack of communication only makes things worse. ALWAYS CHOOSE WORDS RIGHTLY BEFORE YOU SPEAK, WORDS are very destructive
As you call it, MIS-understanding is understanding wrongly! prov 13:15 good understanding produces favour, and prov 16:22 says Understanding is a fountain of life. He who've no understanding is a fool! Forsake your folly and live! (Prov 9:6).
ReplyDeleteShould anything like that come:
Rule No.1 What was i supposed to do that i didnt do?
Recheck yourself, not your partner. calm down then you revisit the issue. this is however hampard again by pride of flesh and anger. the Bible says prov 14:29 he who is slow to anger has GREAT UNDERSTANDING, but he who is quick tempered exalts folly!
Rule No.2 Ask for forgiveness.
Even though the wrong was not on your side, confess and plead with your partner to forgive you! Humble. Prov 6:3 "go humble yourself and opportune your neighbour"
Rule No.3 Combine the two: tackle the problem with understanding and humility, talk it out.
Prov 15:23 a man has joy in an apt answear and how delightful is a timely word! YOU GOT IT!
I SEE U RIDING ON A FAMILY WITH NO WOES IN JESUS NAME!